The role of the family when dealing with drug abuse and addiction is a huge one. Family therapy can have a huge impact in conquering the drug abuse and addiction that has affected every aspect of your family dynamics. It’s not an easy road to walk on, but when family therapy is implemented, you all will learn how to deal with drug abuse and addiction in a healthy and productive way.
When your loved one is in a rehab clinic, you will likely be asked to attend family therapy sessions on site. This is an extremely important part of the recovery process. You may be hesitant to attend these sessions, but rest assured that they will be life-affirming for not only you, but your loved one as well.
Often, the person who has the addiction is feeling alone and withdrawn from the family. That could be the reason why he or she began using in the first place. People who abuse drugs are looking for a way to fit in – a tool to help them be part of something when they feel alone. That often has to do with feeling alienated from the family.
When you participate in family therapy, you are telling your loved one that you care about them and their recovery and that it is important to you. If you find yourself resistant to participation, just keep in mind that you are there to learn and to help. It is important to show your support when a loved one has an abuse or addiction problem with drugs.
Family therapy can actually strengthen your family in ways you never even considered before. What family can’t use a little advice and guidance when it comes to their lives?
In today’s world, dysfunction is a family dynamic that is all too common. When you are participating in family therapy for drug abuse and addiction, you are saying that you want something to change within that family dynamic and make it better than it is. You may think you have the “perfect” family, but no one really does. A little soul searching can go a long way – especially for the family member who is struggling with abuse and addiction.
Whether your loved one is in an inpatient or outpatient program, it’s essential that you obtain family therapy for drug abuse or addiction in some shape or form. You’ll all be much better for it, and your loved one will have an easier time becoming drug-free.
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Sunday, March 15, 2009
A Mother’s Love
I did have this on my poetry blog, but it's here now, too.
A Mother’s Love
A baby’s hand around your thumb
is a moment to cherish always,
You know your heart’s been taken
she has you the rest of your days.
Smiling at the wind, breeze blowing her hair
she reaches for things unknown.
That smile, those eyes, those tiny toes,
Hang onto it before she’s all grown.
Bottles and diapers, late nights awake
Rocking chair getting worn out…
These are times Mom’s would not trade
Even when she throws you a pout.
Scraped up knees, tears so true
as she begins to grow…
Trying to be so grown-up,
her independence shows.
School days come, off you go…
With tears, climb on the bus
our hearts just ache…there goes my girl...
They don’t mind though… it’s us!
Coughs and colds and chicken pox,
bikes and Barbies and friends.
Easter Bunny, Santa Claus,
And all the latest trends.
Bible school, Preschool, Girl Scouts, too.
On and on it goes each year
her sweet voice saying, I love you, Mom!
As you try to fight back the tears.
Then all of a sudden comes the day,
you find the baby’s gone
And what you have is a teenager
With boys, and cars and songs.
Football games and dances,
Long hours on the phone,
Pretty gowns and wrist corsage,
You find she’s never home.
When she had tiny little hands
and all she did was play,
All the sunshine in the world
warmed over you each day.
But if you aren’t looking she can disappear,
leaving in her place a shell,
here comes everything that you fear
and throws your world into hell.
The sparkle is gone, she smiles not at you,
She lies and cheats and steals.
Spends time with friends that are sneaky and shallow
And never says how she feels.
Her eyes are glassy, she slurs her words,
and stays out all night long.
She’s killing herself, taking you along
It’s so hard to still be strong.
The enemy that you cannot see
Is taking your beautiful child,
It picks her up and carries her away
To places that are ugly and vile.
She smiles at nothing, she’s dark and distant,
bitter and ugly and cold.
You try to see around what she’s doing
But it’s getting very old.
But you can’t give up, not now or ever,
You’ve come too far to turn back
Remember when she was a newborn,
and all the sleep that you lacked?
And the miles you put on that rocker,
And the blankie you looked everywhere for,
And her friends you loved like your own kids,
And you know that you would do more.
So take her hand while you still have the chance
and hold it really tight,
Pull her away from demons unseen,
that sneak up on you in the night.
Give her your love and walk the path,
even when she says no.
Be there until she finds her way,
through things that she doesn’t know.
Just like when she learned to walk
While hanging on to your thumb
Although she may have slipped from you,
Without her, you would be numb.
Be tough, be strong
and this too shall pass
with the blink of a babies eye.
I love my girls through all their mistakes
A Mother’s love will never die.
Young Girl Hugs Her Teddy Bear
Giclee Print
Buy at AllPosters.com
Hugs Not Drugs
Magnet
Buy at AllPosters.com
A Mother’s Love
A baby’s hand around your thumb
is a moment to cherish always,
You know your heart’s been taken
she has you the rest of your days.
Smiling at the wind, breeze blowing her hair
she reaches for things unknown.
That smile, those eyes, those tiny toes,
Hang onto it before she’s all grown.
Bottles and diapers, late nights awake
Rocking chair getting worn out…
These are times Mom’s would not trade
Even when she throws you a pout.
Scraped up knees, tears so true
as she begins to grow…
Trying to be so grown-up,
her independence shows.
School days come, off you go…
With tears, climb on the bus
our hearts just ache…there goes my girl...
They don’t mind though… it’s us!
Coughs and colds and chicken pox,
bikes and Barbies and friends.
Easter Bunny, Santa Claus,
And all the latest trends.
Bible school, Preschool, Girl Scouts, too.
On and on it goes each year
her sweet voice saying, I love you, Mom!
As you try to fight back the tears.
Then all of a sudden comes the day,
you find the baby’s gone
And what you have is a teenager
With boys, and cars and songs.
Football games and dances,
Long hours on the phone,
Pretty gowns and wrist corsage,
You find she’s never home.
When she had tiny little hands
and all she did was play,
All the sunshine in the world
warmed over you each day.
But if you aren’t looking she can disappear,
leaving in her place a shell,
here comes everything that you fear
and throws your world into hell.
The sparkle is gone, she smiles not at you,
She lies and cheats and steals.
Spends time with friends that are sneaky and shallow
And never says how she feels.
Her eyes are glassy, she slurs her words,
and stays out all night long.
She’s killing herself, taking you along
It’s so hard to still be strong.
The enemy that you cannot see
Is taking your beautiful child,
It picks her up and carries her away
To places that are ugly and vile.
She smiles at nothing, she’s dark and distant,
bitter and ugly and cold.
You try to see around what she’s doing
But it’s getting very old.
But you can’t give up, not now or ever,
You’ve come too far to turn back
Remember when she was a newborn,
and all the sleep that you lacked?
And the miles you put on that rocker,
And the blankie you looked everywhere for,
And her friends you loved like your own kids,
And you know that you would do more.
So take her hand while you still have the chance
and hold it really tight,
Pull her away from demons unseen,
that sneak up on you in the night.
Give her your love and walk the path,
even when she says no.
Be there until she finds her way,
through things that she doesn’t know.
Just like when she learned to walk
While hanging on to your thumb
Although she may have slipped from you,
Without her, you would be numb.
Be tough, be strong
and this too shall pass
with the blink of a babies eye.
I love my girls through all their mistakes
A Mother’s love will never die.
Young Girl Hugs Her Teddy Bear
Giclee Print
Buy at AllPosters.com
Hugs Not Drugs
Magnet
Buy at AllPosters.com
Great Inspirational Books for Inmates and Friends and Family of Inmates
When you have a child in prison or jail or for that matter in a rehab or other facility away from home, you may need some help financially, mentally and emotionally. You need friends and family, too, but these books can also help.
Great Inspirational Books for Inmates and Friends and Family of Inmates
Great Inspirational Books for Inmates and Friends and Family of Inmates
1. Chicken Soup for the Soul: Living Your Dreams, 10th Anniversary Special Edition – This book is loaded with goal setting tips and inspirational stories that will motivate you to realize any of your goals in life.
2. Self Improvement: The Top 101 Experts Who Help Us Improve Our Lives (Paperback) by David Riklan – Riklan studied self-help experts that are most often searched for on the Internet. Then he devised an ingenious format for describing how they got started, what their message is all about, and how to find out more about them. A great way to get started.
3. Angry All The Time: An Emergency Guide To Anger Control Ronald T. Potter-Efron — This is an update of a best-selling classic on anger management that teaches how to understand and control episodes of uncontrolled anger.
4. Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren – This huge selling book gives a 40-day personal spiritual journey, and describes what Warren says are God’s five main purposes for all people.
5. Left to Tell: Discovering God Amidst the Rwandan Holocaust by Immaculee Ilibagiza —A truly heartbreaking and equally inspirational story of courage and faith.
6. Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl – Tells his story of living in a concentration camp under the most horrific conditions imaginable and still found the strength to keep going.
7. Days of Grace by Arthur Ashe – In a world where athletes are all too often the opposite of role models, this autobiography tells us of an extraordinary man who achieved as much with his mind as he did with his athletic prowess.
8. The Real Bling: How to Get the Only Thing You Need by Brian McClellan—inspirational and motivational self-empowerment tools from a hip-hop perspective.
9. A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches of Martin Luther King, Jr. by Martin Luther King – There will never be another like him, but still we can learn from his example.
10. We Got Fired! by Harvey Mackay – True stories of extraordinarily successful people who, as the title tells us, were not always quite so successful.
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